It's all a lie

I want to talk about something I feel very passionately about. I want to talk about how the media is affecting the way we think, act, and feel. This has affected my self confidence and I don't want it to affect anyone else's.
A couple of weeks ago, I came across this girl's blog who wrote about modesty and how sorry she is to the guys who have to see immodesty wherever they go. Reading this blog, it changed my view on modesty and that it isn't only affecting me and how I act, but it is making it even harder for the boys around me, when they are already being pressed with immodest images everywhere they go. (Here is the link to this article if anyone wants to read it, and I highly suggest it: http://bemalleable.wordpress.com/2013/12/31/sincerely-one-of-many-girls-who-care/)
But every girl is faced with the dilemma of dressing modestly and showing her self respect or trying to get a guy's attention. I know how frustrating it is to see the guy you like drooling over the 'hottest' girl in school who hardly wears any clothes, who has perfect hair and perfect skin, and has the best body. It's so tempting to want to wear that shorter of shorts or a skimpy swimsuit just to see if he will notice you instead. But let me tell you, it is not worth it to slip. Guys who notice you because of how little you are wearing, are not noticing you for you. They are noticing you because they want to see what you are giving them. Respect yourselves and respect the young men who are fighting so hard.
To all young men, don't let the media win this battle. Us girls need strong young men who can care for us and respect us so we can respect ourselves. We need to be commended for not slipping and staying true to who we are. I know that it is hard to be a teenage boy in these times. In the blog I mentioned earlier she says to the boys, "Don't you think you'd want to wait for a girl who will encourage you on your walk with God? Who will work in protecting your purity? Who will respect you and encourage you to follow your dreams? Who will see you as redeemed? Who will be by your side during the good AND bad? Too often, it is girls who are told not to settle for a guy. But guys, the same goes for you. Don't waste your time and emotions on a girl who really could care less about you and just wants you for what you will do for her. You too deserve someone who will see you as amazing and treat you accordingly."
The media tell us all lies. Everything is a lie. Yet, it is controlling our thoughts, and even worse, it controls how we feel about ourselves. When I was younger, I started feeling self conscience because every single girl on TV, movies, magazines, etc. had stick thin legs. I do not have stick thin legs. I was blessed with strong, curvy legs and I have had to accept that. But it is so hard to love what I look like when every girl getting praise from boys has itty bitty legs. This is my weakness and where Satan gets his grasp on me because sometimes I fall into his traps and believe that the only pretty girls are the ones that wear a size 0. But I am here to tell you all that EVERYTHING THE MEDIA SAYS IS GARBAGE. I'm not saying that if you do have itty bitty legs, that you are ugly, because that isn't true either. But the media pushes so hard on the fact that girls have to look a certain way, that if we don't look that certain way, it's hard for us to feel beautiful.
In a world where the media is everywhere, it is hard to escape from it all. But I can promise that as long as you try to distance yourselves and ask yourself who you really are, it will make all the difference. The media can't determine who is beautiful and who can get a boyfriend. That is up to us to change the way the world thinks. This right here is Satan's biggest tactic to get control over us. And it is successful for him. He knows how we think and he knows our weaknesses. We have to be stronger than him and show him that we know who we are and we are going to treat and love ourselves that way.
I have very strong feeling about this and I'm sorry this post was all over the place, I have so many thoughts. I hate what the media portrays. I wish it would disappear and not pressure us all into thinking that there is only one 'cookie cutter' form of beauty. It's all a lie. Remember that. Please remember. Satan never wants you to feel good enough. If we try to live by what the media says, we will never amount to anything, because there will always be something wrong or something we are lacking. But in God's eyes, we all are good enough because we are fighting. You must show that effort and He will notice and He will bless you and protect you from the onslaughts of Satan. He knows what we are all going through and He wants to help so badly. We must make that effort to overcome, though. We have to try. I beg with the girl who wrote the blog article as well as many others that both men and women: fight and love yourself for who you are and what you look like. Self confidence is key and it goes a long way, and the media can't determine how you feel about yourself, it has to come from you.